I know, I know ! (Raising my arms in the air)
If you have ever read any of my blog posts I am sure you’ve seen this post and said , “Took her long enough!”
I am writing this because it is something that was long overdue. What have I been up to? A lot of things, I have been living and I have been learning but most importantly I have been eating. I have been eating like a pig despite the fact that I should be watching my waist. Why you ask. Well my weight is just fine it’s my waist that needs deliverance. I mean what does a girl have to do to get a flat tummy around here? I’m that kind of girl who wishes she could eat anything without getting fat. Ladies can I get an Amen!
I also wish some women could keep their comments to themselves regarding someone’s weight, aren’t we all struggling with something? Well as you judge her tummy, her eyebrows are on fleek and yours well yours are just eyebrows, we can’t say much about them. I am not being savage, I am being honest. God almighty knows it and so do you, so get to those make-up tutorials they are everywhere these days!
My thoughts are a bit jumbled up today. I will do my best not to digress but if I do I hope you still enjoy the read.
Today I want to talk about a woman you might have come across. Let us call her Cindy. Cindy seems to have her life all figured out. She seems to have the perfect parents, perfect relationship, perfect friends, perfect job and the list of perfection goes on and on. You would say she has the perfect life. She goes to church and she is always there for her friends. When you see her in church you are the first to say that she is involved with the youth pastor. You call her a pretender and all manner of names just to make her look bad. Despite the loathe you have for her, Cindy is the first person who sends you that M-Pesa that you so long for when you comment `sina kakitu` in the youth group. We have all been there and if you have not jumped at the vibration of a text from your phone then count your blessings. I know someone just wished to have a camaraderie with Cindy right about now. You on the other hand think that she is just being a show off because a pretty girl like her definitely has a ‘sponsor’.
Cindy is just an ordinary girl. She has been raised in a Christian family but she got to really understand Jesus when she was in high school. She gave her life to Christ and became the Christian Union Chairlady. She worked hard in school but Mathematics was not her friend. Maths made her hungry when she was full, Maths made her get the cramps when she was past that time of the month. Maths was annoying like that spoiler friend who says what is happening in the new Marvel movie when you have not even seen the trailer . Yes it was that bad, I can relate. She did not get an A but she managed to join campus and graduate with First Class Honors. I will not dwell on the sleepless nights that she had while in campus that is quite frivolous in this situation. Kenyans love to hear the success not the struggle that comes with it.
As tempting as it was Cindy made it out of campus without using drugs or taking alcohol. She had one boyfriend through campus and they are engaged to be married. Is he 70 years old? No, he is three years older than her and they met in church when all youth members were pledging their vows to remain pure till marriage. Yes, she is still pure. Unbelievable? Yes. Impossible? No.
Just like any other person Cindy has her ups and downs. She has her bad hair days but you would not know that because of the colorful turbans she dons every once in a while, she gets cranky sometimes and cusses unbelievable words, but you did not know that now did you?
She gets broke not because she canceled a date with her ‘sponsor’ but because she had to chip in and help pay fees for her siblings. She does not always meet her deadlines but she works really hard to steer clear from trouble. She sacrifices her lunch to that street boy who begs so rudely for money in town and she ignores the hunger pangs at mid-day. How about bible study? Well she would not miss a session for anything. She is thoughtful and her friends never miss a gift from her on their birthdays. Do you know her? I know you have a Cindy in your life.
Well here is the reality. Good people do exist. Not just good people but good women. Kind hearted women who send you random texts asking how you have been and why you were not in church last Sunday. They are not flirting with you or feigning their care towards you, they are concerned. They mind their own business and try to avoid gossip at all costs. When feeling down she does not have to run to Facebook or Instagram but some alone time and reflection helps.
She gives and definitely receives, maybe that is why you think life is unfair. Life is fair. Why? Because it is unfair to us all.
Finding a woman who has her life in order does not mean that someone else is taking care of her. It just means that she has control of her life and so would you if you would stop dating your grandfather to attend Chris Brown’s concert. People have become so ignorant they stopped believing in our women. Well, I’ve got news for you, women are graduating every day, getting employed and creating employment for others, giving birth and going to work, getting married and keeping their jobs. Fellow woman do not hate Cindy because she makes life look easy but look up to her because she has the courage to be a good person in this world. She does not do good because the world is perfect but because she sees good in an imperfect world.
Just because people do really bad things in this world does not mean that everyone does. There will always be a Cindy who will make you feel like your life is a mess so you choose to bring her down to feel better about yourself. That is not right, I believe if you cannot find a good person in the world then be the good person. It is not easy neither is it rocket science, so put a smile on someone’s face today and I promise good vibes will come your way.
Let us stand together ladies. Be a blessing to someone today!
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